First there’s choosing an instrument, then learning to play it. That can take years of practice; hours of unseen trauma, tantrums, tears, frustrations and the occasional epiphany. Then there’s finding other people to play with and not just anyone. It has to be the right mix and the right people. And then there’s more practice and writing and reworking and navigating and negotiating and arguing and compromising and letting go and picking it up again. Then there’s the waiting. Music involves an extraordinary amount of waiting.